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What does a person need/ Leah Goldberg
What does a person need after all?
To humiliate one person over another
To reflect his eyes upon him
Let his voice echo to him.
To break his existential loneliness
The transparent walls
Between the inside and the outside
To hold with two trembling hands
The fragile, naked soul will be led by grace.
A person needs a whole person.
Social skills
Open a world of opportunities for your child!
Welcome – Develop Social Skills: The Most Important Tool in Life!
Social skills are our children’s ticket to a world that accepts and respects them. They allow them to feel like they belong, communicate confidently, and build meaningful relationships. But it doesn’t happen on its own – every child needs guidance and help to acquire social tools in the right way.
Here you will discover how working on the seven key elements can change the way your child integrates into society:
Politeness and etiquette: How do you teach children to use words like "please" and "thank you" in a natural and meaningful way?
Clear and respectful discourse : speak, listen, and express feelings in a way that everyone will understand.
Body language : What happens when words and expressions don't match?
Building successful friendships : collaborating, sharing – and growing together.
Regulating emotions : Dealing with emotions in a balanced way and not letting anger or disappointment take over.
Taking initiative : The children who learn to lead and not be afraid to offer ideas.
Improve communication in challenging situations : identify disappointments and refine ourselves on the path to better connection.
Each of these areas allows children to feel more confident, integrate seamlessly into society, and build good relationships.
This is the time to delve deeper into each area and give your children the tools to build a successful social life!
The concept of social skills – what is it?
Social skills are not just the ability to speak respectfully or conduct a conversation in a pleasant manner. They include a series of complex emotional and cognitive mechanisms that allow humans to:
- Understand the feelings and needs of others.
- Express themselves in a way that is appropriate to the situation.
- Create healthy relationships with social partners.
- Maintain a balance between collaborative interaction and personal independence.
Skills develop in structured stages:
In early childhood : Babies learn to respond to the environment through smiles, eye contact, and body language.
In the childhood years : Preschool and school-age children experience social interactions, learning about empathy, cooperation, and assertiveness.
During adolescence : Adolescents learn to integrate complex emotions, independence, and maintaining long-term, meaningful social relationships.
The impact of skills on the child's life:
Group belonging : A child who is socially successful easily integrates into a peer group.
Developing self-confidence: Social success strengthens the child's self-confidence and self-esteem.
Academic and other achievements : Children with the ability to develop healthy relationships make many gains in both their studies and their future jobs.
Studies and insights on the importance of social skills
Link to long-term success:
A study from Child Development found that there is a correlation between social skills in preschool and academic and professional success, and a lower risk of social deviance (such as criminal offenses) in adulthood.
The family environment as a key factor:
According to the Journal of Family Psychology, the mediation that parents provide through daily conversations with their children is critical to shaping these skills. This is especially true for emotional conversations and coaching appropriate responses.
The key areas for developing social skills
The foundations for integration and social success
Social skills are a set of personal skills that enable children (and adults) to communicate with their environment properly, build meaningful relationships, and integrate positively into society. The acquisition of these skills begins at a young age, and they develop consistently as long as they are given the necessary attention.
Social skills are key to building interpersonal relationships, positive communication, and the ability to cope with both everyday and complex challenges. Below is an overview of the seven key areas of social skills, along with detailed explanations and tips for parents, educators, and professionals.
Politeness, courtesy, and respectful behavior
The foundations of any successful interaction begin with manners.
This is the first way we learn to communicate and create pleasant interactions with other people.
How do you build positive communication and respectful relationships?
Does the child know how to wait in line when playing with his friends?
Does he use words like "please" and "thank you" at the appropriate times?
Does the child respect the personal space and needs of others?
Let 's think : When was the last time your child expressed forgiveness proactively?
Verbal discourse and dialogue skills
This skill includes the ability to express oneself clearly,
Listen to others and conduct a conversation in an appropriate and respectful manner.
Speak, listen and understand – the path to correct and respectful discourse
Does the child share his feelings clearly?
Is he having a conversation where he also listens and not just talks?
Ask yourself: Does the child finish his/her speech respectfully, without interrupting the conversation?
Does the child ask questions that promote conversation, such as "How was your day?"
Body language and nonverbal communication skills
Nonverbal communication is the indirect transmission of messages through body language, eye contact, and tonal cues. It is an important way to convey emotions and adapt to social situations.
How to convey feelings without words? The secret of body language
Does the child maintain eye contact with the speakers around him?
Pay attention: Does the child recognize when his friends are uncomfortable by their body language?
Does he use the correct and appropriate tone of voice when talking to him?
Is he able to understand nonverbal cues (such as facial expressions) and respond accordingly?
Relationships and social gatherings
Good relationships between children are built slowly, through empathy, cooperation, and working together.
This is an important skill that requires a balance between giving and maintaining personal space.
What Makes Children's Friendships Successful? The Secrets to Social Connections
Is the child able to share games or objects with friends?
Does he know how to cooperate in a team game?
Ask yourself: Does the child initiate meetings with friends or easily join social activities?
Is he able to express empathy and comfort a friend in times of distress?
Self-regulation and emotion management
Self-control is the ability to manage overwhelming emotions, such as anger and frustration, and to respond in a balanced and controlled manner. These skills give a child the ability to behave in society with restraint and respect.
Learning to control emotions – the key to inner and social peace
Does the child keep his cool when he loses a game?
Does he identify in advance situations that could make him angry and react in a balanced way?
Try to think: What does your child do when he feels emotionally overwhelmed?
Is he learning to breathe deeply or take a break to calm strong feelings?
Initiative and personal expression
The ability to take initiative and stand up for opinions in a respectful and clear manner is one of the most important qualities of social leadership. It means knowing how to create opportunities for partnership and stand up for personal needs.
How to develop confidence and take initiative?
Does the child initiate ideas for games or activities?
Does he express his needs and desires clearly to others?
Ask yourself: When was the last time your child stood by his principles but in a respectful manner?
Does he feel comfortable proposing new ideas in the group?
Challenges in communication and interaction
In some cases, children may have difficulty identifying disruptive behaviors or properly orienting themselves within social interaction.
How to identify communication obstacles?
Does the child recognize when he talks too much and does not allow others to take part in the conversation?
Is the child considerate of the personal space of his friends?
Does he know how to correct inappropriate behavior after receiving positive feedback?
Is he able to understand social situations in which he should have acted differently?
Each of the areas described here is an integral part of the fabric of social skills.
Consistent practice and open dialogue can help every child develop their social skills, grow in self-confidence, and become part of a supportive and respectful society.
Don't forget! The more the role of parents, educators, and caregivers is concerned with developing positive patterns at an early age, the easier it will be for the child to begin building a healthy social life while understanding his inner and social world.
Difficulties in the field and what to do about them?
Children with social skills difficulties may show:
- Extreme emotional reactions (anger, frustration, withdrawal).
- Relationship maintenance problems.
- Inability to interpret social situations.
Possible solutions:
- Parental guidance: Help parents provide a safe and supportive space.
- Cognitive-behavioral therapy: helps correct biased thoughts and perceptions.
- Social skills groups: focused practice with a group of peers.
When to seek professional help?
If you notice that your child is avoiding social interactions, or that your child is experiencing constant social rejection, it is recommended that you seek professional advice.
Professionals who can help:
Social skills groups.
Cognitive-behavioral therapists.
Working on social skills is a process that is tailored to each child's needs and abilities. Whether through games, focused therapy, or education in patience and politeness, the process will serve as an essential foundation for the child's self-confidence and social stability throughout their life.
Interested in more information?
If you feel that your child needs support in developing social skills, I would be happy to assist you!
I offer professional counseling, personal and group workshops, and support for the entire family with the aim of facilitating the process and leading to social and personal prosperity.
You can contact me by phone or email.
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Let's begin a joint journey towards a better social future!